They say that your best time in your life is when you reach your prime years.
Some say it is when you’re in your 40s and have more control over your life.
Some say the best years of your life are when you didn’t have to pay the bills, move out, or learn how to be a fully-functioning adult. The only thing you needed to worry about was taking naps, hiding from the “monsters,” and ensure that you ate your vegetables.
Although naps are still great, “monsters” have become your weird co-workers or just everyday pedestrians, and based on the amount of alcohol units I consume — in correlation to the amount of “working out” I actually do per week — I’d say vegetables are still pretty important.
But on top of those things, life has somehow managed to add layers upon layers that prepare you (or rather throw you off a cliff) into the wonderful world of adulting.
Reflecting on my journey through my prime years, being in your twenties can often feel like playing a game of Minesweeper.
There is an element of magic however, and that’s learning how to cook proper meals for yourself, using a spreadsheet for your monthly finances, and knowing how to “optimise your experience on LinkedIn, for career prospects” (I hate myself).
Above the everyday mundane tasks, I’ve also learned that being in your twenties isn’t only about understanding how things work — but also understanding how things can work for you.
It starts with letting go.
Why? Because you can accept that these ongoing changes are meant to make you stronger — not tear you down. The moment when you take on these obstacles and assume that you’re permanently screwed, is when you deliberately ruin self-improvement and your confidence.
Inevitably, there will be people you lose touch with, moments that are best kept in the past, and times where you may feel like you’ve lost your way. People won’t understand why you’re making the decisions to which you choose; and then are those who will provide you unconditional love and support. But that’s part of life.
As someone that has moved to a new country within the last year, gone through three jobs in the three months, and still trying to figure out the ropes, I am oddly grateful for these challenges; for with tired eyes, there is no way I’m going to quit while I’m ahead. I have decided that letting go and accepting that I am still learning is the best thing I can do for myself.
When you let go, you open up yourself to the endless possibilities and moments that you may experience only once in your life. When you let go, you start to appreciate the simpler things that are often overlooked with everyday stressors. When you let go, you aim to focus on nourishing your own strengths, weakness, relationships — and perhaps find what makes you happy.
Because let’s be honest, who the hell wants to live a life knowing they never did what truly made them happy?