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Don’t let your emotions and self-consciousness get the best of you and cause you to feel like you are not good enough for anything or anyone; there are so many things that you can do to keep from falling down a pit of self-despair and anxiety.
- Look within to find what makes you stand out from the rest of the world and what special skills that you have, that others may not have.
- Find people who can lift you up when you feel yourself starting to fall and who are real with you no matter how much it may hurt because they know you need to hear it.
- It's okay to say you need help, asking for help does not make you weak nor does it make you look like you can’t handle yourself, this is one of the strongest things you can do. This is all about making yourself mentally strong so that you prepare yourself for whatever comes your way as far as road blocks and disappointment.
The number one thing you can do to keep from feeling like things are crashing around you is to look within and find the strength to say to yourself that everything will be ok; if you can trick yourself into believing everything is good, it will be. You should look in a mirror and say that you are truly happy with everything going on in your life and if you can’t do that then its time to make a change and find out what it is that you want out of life. Make a list of all the things that make you special and unique and every time you start to feel down pull out that list and read it, use it as a reminder of why you are who you are. Try writing a letter to all your fears and explain to them why you fear them; this can help you put a face to fear and help you get over it, if you see them as someone you can cut out of your life, it will be easier to let it go. Ultimately it is up to you to find a way to deal with the inner struggle for your peace of mind and sanity; this is just one of the ways that you can find some control over what is making you feel the way you feel.
The next thing you can do is seek out family and friends to help you not feel so alone when you start to go down that dark road of self-pity; they will be your light when things get way too dark for you to see your way out of the darkness. Finding people who share the same things you share is a good and bad thing: good in the sense that they know what you are going through but bad in that they are going through this and may not be able to help you as much as you need. Family will always be there for you if you are willing to open up and tell them what is going on; they can’t help if you won’t let them into your world and show them around. True friends will always be there to tell you the truth and let you know what’s real, if you can find a few really good friends that will keep it as real as ever, you are ok. These are the people who are going to love you no matter what may happen and lift you up when you are going down; keep them close and don’t be afraid to tell when something is bugging you.
The last thing to consider is asking for help when things get too hard for you to work on by yourself or with family and friends; its ok to admit when things are too much for you to handle, we all need help sometimes. Going to see a professional is something we should all do, just to check in with ourselves and get another opinion about what we are thinking in our minds about what we are doing in life. Talking to someone who doesn’t know you is good because they won’t just tell you what you want to hear, they will give their honest opinion and help you to see a side that may have been hidden before and go through all the angles with you. There are so many places you can go to find these people, not always a doctor in an office, it could just be a stranger in a chat room who doesn’t know you and will give you an unbias view of the situation you are in. Just know that it is ok to throw your hands up in frustration and ask someone to pull you back from the brink of a breakdown; asking for help doesn’t make you weak or sad it makes you strong and grown up.
I leave you with this: looking at your life and not liking what you see is common for most people in the world; it's those that have the courage to stand up and decide to make a change are the ones that will ultimately find their happiness. Don’t be afraid to seek solace in the people around you because they will be there when the chips are down and you need them the most. And asking for help is the bravest thing you can do because knowing the problem is too big for you is when you need to go out and find someone who is smart enough to help you fix it.