For most human beings, the majority of life revolves around a consistent routine. We spend the bulk of our days at work, so that we can pay bills and put food on the table. The average person comes home to their partner and dependants each night and does the following: Eats dinner, watches some television, indulges in the cyber world, goes to sleep and then repeats the same sequence the next day.
Obviously the details and sequence will be a little different for each individual, but the routine above must sound familiar to many of you reading this piece.
So what is it all about? Is this how life is meant to be?
If you don’t follow a religion, it must be hard to understand why you are put here on this earth? Even if you are a believer, finding an answer can still be challenging.
We didn’t ask to be born, yet here we are and we don’t know how long we have – or what tomorrow will bring. The only thing we are certain of is that we will die one day (Death and taxes’ as the saying goes).
According to Healthline, the number of people diagnosed with depression increases by approximately twenty percent each year.
A mundane daily routine with a lack of meaning is likely to lower our spirits over time. I believe we require passion in every aspect of our lives to ensure we feel a sense of purpose in our existence.
This sounds simple in theory, but in truth it’s quite difficult.
Not everyone can work in a job they are passionate about. Many people have to do what they can just to make ends meet.
This is where hobbies become so important. If we can’t find stimulation at work, then we need to find time for it elsewhere in our day. We all need an outlet – whether it’s playing sport, playing music, reading, writing, painting or anything that brings us a sense of purpose.
Let me also say that television is not a hobby. Now I love TV just like the rest of them, but it shouldn’t monopolise the free time we have.
In the book Conversations with David Foster Wallace, he aptly states: “One thing TV does is help us deny that we’re lonely. With televised images, we can have the facsimile of a relationship without the work of a real relationship. It’s anaesthesia of form. The interesting thing is why we’re so desperate for this anaesthetic against loneliness.”
I believe if TV becomes too much of a factor in our lives, it is due to a lack of passion in other areas, and this is a good segue into the next area – our romantic relationships.
Romantic relationships should be filled with passion. It’s fair to say that partners who count down the minutes to see each other at the end of every day – lovers who desire to spend every possible moment together and explore the depth of each others souls – will rarely feel unfulfilled or depressed.
Ralph Waldo Emerson was right when he said “Life’s a journey not a destination“. The best experiences are shared with loved ones. We need to be careful when selecting a life partner that the person we choose fits the criteria for the long journey, because they are not the destination. If you have passion and desire for your partner, the journey seems so much more manageable because in good times and bad – that is the person you want by your side.
Irrespective of whether your partner is kind and caring, if there is a lack of passion between the two of you, there is a good chance your relationship will feel like it’s lacking something. This opens the door to feelings of depression – as I believe we all long for passion and if we don’t have it, we inevitably feel frustrated.
Frustrated people with a weak moral compass often cheat on their partners. Those with a stronger moral compass often suffer in silence, because leaving someone who you have been with for a prolonged period is an incredibly hard thing to do. It just emphasises the fact that when choosing your partner for life, try ensure that person will stimulate you in as many aspects of life as possible.
Earlier in this piece I touched on religion, and I want to go back to that briefly. Most peaceful religions encourage us to perform noble acts (charity, prayer, repentance). These acts help us get close to our creator. If this is ingrained in our core, we are more likely to possess passion in our day to day existence.
These are all very confronting themes. Even as I write them, I am challenged by my own words. They serve as a reminder to do whatever I can to find passion in as many components of my life as possible.
I hope you can all do the same.